This is a posting of an email that I sent out to several of my friends a couple months ago. It was meant to be sort of a realistic, slap in the face, tough love, round-about motivational email to the best bunch of friends a guy could ever hope to have. We all struggle with weight problems. I have had some success over the past few years so I wanted to share so of my insight with them. The text has been slightly modified from the original email (my parents read my blog!).
I'm under 250 for the first time since 2004 and I guarantee that I'm in way better shape than I was in 2004. I recently bought my first pair of size 36 pants since 1986. Seriously. I might weigh more that I did in high school but I'm stronger and leaner. I'm in the best shape of my life, without a doubt. I can do 50+ push ups. I can do dips. I can almost do a chin up! I can ride a bike like crazy.
Crazy, I know. Life is pretty good. YES, I still need to get rid of 20+ pounds (228, baby!). I am happy with where I am, but I'll be happier where I'm going! So now you're thinking, "great, Steve, thanks for rubbing this all in. WTF you trying to say? I'm gonna kick your ass next time I see you!"
Well I wanted to say that so I can say this:
I struggle every freaking day with getting rid of excess pounds, exercising more and getting healthy. I haven't taken a magic pill or suddenly found a new fad diet that works (NONE of them do. Period. G'head argue with me. I dare you!). I obsess over everything I eat and try to exercise as much as I possibly can while still maintaining a semi-sane personal life. That is it. Eat less. Exercise more. Sorry. I wish it were easier. I wish I had better news. Getting in shape is the hardest thing I've ever attempted. I'm succeeding right now but you know what the dirty little secret is? I am still in serious jeopardy of failure. I could eat and sloth my way back to 320 pounds. My guess is that it would take less than two years.
I'm pretty confident that I will not let that happen. I'm really confident that my friends will not let that happen! The only way to make sure I don't regress it to realize that it is a possibility and to be proactive in my fight against weight gain. See I've realized that you have to want it more than anything. You have to want to see your abs for the first time in your life (yep, still looking for mine). You have to want to be able to keep up with your kids (or puppies!). You have to be willing to challenge the status-quo even when you skinny friends look at you like you're stupid (I have a story about this but I'll save it for a future installment).
Bottom line is that getting in shape is HARD but luckily I've found several things that do help in this constant struggle. Obviously, your mileage will vary.
- Eat at least 6 times per day. This is a no compromise bullet point for me. I can eat roughly 2400 calories per day and still get rid of 2 pounds per week. So I can eat meals of 300, 300, 600, 300, 600, 300. Roughly. I have this on a yellow-sticky on my monitor at work.
- Eat whole foods. Fruits, vegetables, whole grains (oatmeal, brown rice, whole grain bread), fish, chicken, lean beef, fruits, vegetables, fruits, vegetables. Oh and eat some vegetables and fruit! Personally I probably eat too many meal replacement bars (as in they are not a whole food) but I'm trying to work on that.
- Drink water. Drink only water. Currently, I allow myself coffee in the morning and on occasion, a Diet Monster in the afternoon.
- Track your food intake. I track everything I eat during the week at The Daily Plate ( http://www.thedailyplate.com/diary/who/deitysteve) I do not force myself to track weekend eating... I should!
- Don't eat fast food. Ever. Okay, it is nearly impossible to NEVER eat fast food. So:
- My first choice is ALWAYS Taco Time. Get the light meal (light chicken taco, cup of white chicken chili. The whole meal is like 250-300 calories or something) with water and NOTHING ELSE.
- At McDonald's eat the grilled chicken burger with no mayo (STOP: Do not order 2 or 3 of them, no fries, no coke).
- Wendy's has baked potatoes and salads.
- If you follow the above, you will get hungry later. When that happens, eat a handful of nuts or raisins or a small bowl of truly healthy (Kashi brand is my first choice) cereal.
- When you can fit into a smaller size:
- buy new clothes. It feels GREAT!
- throw out (or give away) the old larger clothes. DO NOT keep a comfy "football watching shirt!" you'll just feel like you can eat bags of potato chips while you wear it!
- Read Men's Health. There is no way in HELL that you can follow all of the tips provided in even just one month of Men's Health - but some tips will stick and you will start to see reoccurring themes (like Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids rock your health... I currently use Udo's 3-6-9 Blend on a daily basis).
- Take a multi vitamin. I use Nature's Plus Source of Life Liquid Multi-Vitamin
- EXERCISE. This is the tough one. We are all busy. Very busy. You HAVE TO DO IT. Ride your bike. Lift weights. Walk around your neighborhood. Hike. Kayak. Whatever. Get your friends and kids into mountain biking so they'll bug you to get out and exercise! Just do something (anything) and do it often.
- Read all you can about fitness and nutrition (do not include fad diet books!) You do not need to follow a particular book's religion but you will start to see themes appear like eating more often, eating whole foods, carbohydrates are not the enemy (as fucktards like Dr. Atkins has America believing. Yes pure white sugar is the evil and HFCS is Satan but Oatmeal is not evil. Brown rice is not evil!) My list on Library Thing is a good place to start. Here is the order I'd suggest:
- Surround yourself with like-minded individuals. Do not hang out with dudes who go to Taco Bell for lunch every day! I'm lucky that: I have a friend who lives very close to me and is a diabetic (diabetic = seriously motivated to eat right and exercise!). My next-door neighbor and friend an avid (insane?) cyclist and health nut. My boss is into healthy eating and exercise. I said "I'm lucky" above but I'd really like to think that more that luck, I choose to associate with these individuals. I make every effort I can to work out with my diabetic neighbor. I will drop almost anything to ride with my neighbor (which brings up another good point... train with guys who are better than you... it will push you farther than you'd go by yourself!). A couple examples of why I think this is important:
- When my neighbor has me over for dinner we have grilled tilapia, brown rice and steamed asparagus
- When my diabetic friend has me over for dinner we have grilled chicken and lightly breaded, fried zucchini (Olive oil is not evil!
- Honestly... before reading this, what would you have fixed me if I were coming over for dinner? Would we have ordered pizza? Grilled greasy burgers? You get my point, right? ;-)