Monday, January 23, 2012 12:08 AM
We often hear people say things like “Live with no regrets”, but I don’t think that’s literally what people mean. I know I’ve regretted many things in my past and there are some things I look back on with great disdain.
One of those things is my high school football career. I played 1.5 seasons with my high school team. The problem – I didn’t take it seriously enough. I wanted to have fun, not focus so much on winning and losing…not focus so much on conditioning and honing my skills…not focus on what it really means to be committed to a team or gaining greater understanding of the game.
So after my initial season riding the bench, and then my second season losing my starting position to someone that wanted it more, I just quit…decided it wasn’t fun so I turned in my helmet and went on to other things.
I regret that every day. Being in my 30’s and nowhere near the vision of health and fitness, I mourn the missed opportunity I had. I regret that I didn’t take advantage of an opportunity that was given.
That’s why I appreciate opportunities when they arise and try to embrace them. For me regret was not a constant reminder of failure or a weight to drag along the rest of my life, but a motivator and advanced-warning system for future decisions.
Regrets are something we need to live with and learn from, but they in no way define who we are today or tomorrow. I saw this on Twitter recently, and it rings true:
Don’t look for me in my past, I don’t live there anymore.