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I was chatting online with one of my pet codemonkeys (technically a codebaboon, but I digress) this morning and he mentioned that a coworker (his lead) had “irreparably damaged” their working relationship. After I made fun of him for a few minutes, I asked him if I'd ever offended him (knowing full well I have) and he said.. “well.. thats different.”

So in my infinite Solomon-ish wisdom, I said...  “Well, its different because you let it be different. No?  Things like relationships and trust and all that are only “irreparably damaged” if you let them be so. Right?“

He said, “yeah but he questioned my professionalism and my skills”... “two things I take very seriously.”

So I called him a lazy hack and told him to get his ass back to work. Then I said “now forgive me. See how easy that was?“

So he changed the subject to my posts on Vista... (which F'n ROCKS btw!!)

But all this engaging dialog made me curious... why are so many of us so damned stubborn? so damned sensitive? So damned hung up on ourselves? On the flip side, why are so many folks (like “El Stevo”) only happy when bringing other folks down?

I welcome your thoughts. (Well, some of them... but lets see what happens.)

Posted on Thursday, July 13, 2006 7:23 AM General Interest | Back to top


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Wow, some one has piqued the interest of the Great Goblin enough to warrant a post! They should be flattered.

Anyway, philosophically speaking, I do have an idea about your questions. It has to do with how much you value the person who has offended you. I don't particularly value my lead's relationship so I can "afford" to be pissy. In your case, I can't because I do value you. Even moreso with wives, family, etc. Once we cease to value someone we used to value, the fuss gets more damaging, hence things like divorce.
Left by Theo Moore on Jul 13, 2006 7:34 AM

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Just jerkin' yer chain with the Goblin comment, you know. :-)
Left by Theo Moore on Jul 13, 2006 7:40 AM

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No way jackass... You have caused irreparable damage to our friendship, you lazy hack. From now on you're dead to me.

Yep, you and Gil Gerard who might (or might not) be a pedophile or something far more sinister... both dead to me.

Or I could get over it. Yeah. I'll do that... except for Gil Gerard. He's still dead to me.
Left by Blogus Maximus on Jul 13, 2006 7:44 AM

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I am so *offended* that you might put me in a category with Gil Gerard who might (or might not) be a pedophile. Wow...

I can hardly believe you have gone there...

Also, that would make him a a dead tool, rather than just a tool, right?
Left by Theo Moore on Jul 13, 2006 7:47 AM

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We are all just Ass Clowns...
Left by Jeff Julian on Jul 13, 2006 7:52 AM

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indeed Jeff.
Left by Blogus Maximus on Jul 13, 2006 7:58 AM

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