I was chatting online with one of my pet codemonkeys (technically a codebaboon, but I digress) this morning and he mentioned that a coworker (his lead) had “irreparably damaged” their working relationship. After I made fun of him for a few minutes, I asked him if I'd ever offended him (knowing full well I have) and he said.. “well.. thats different.”
So in my infinite Solomon-ish wisdom, I said... “Well, its different because you let it be different. No? Things like relationships and trust and all that are only “irreparably damaged” if you let them be so. Right?“
He said, “yeah but he questioned my professionalism and my skills”... “two things I take very seriously.”
So I called him a lazy hack and told him to get his ass back to work. Then I said “now forgive me. See how easy that was?“
So he changed the subject to my posts on Vista... (which F'n ROCKS btw!!)
But all this engaging dialog made me curious... why are so many of us so damned stubborn? so damned sensitive? So damned hung up on ourselves? On the flip side, why are so many folks (like “El Stevo”) only happy when bringing other folks down?
I welcome your thoughts. (Well, some of them... but lets see what happens.)